Since having my second child, I have found navigating life to be easier when I follow these 8 simple habits to a happy mom. These are suggestions that might or might not work for you, and I hope you can take away something helpful.
Plan for the week ahead
A simple habit to help you be a happier mom is plan for the week ahead. I use my planner in two ways. I write out the important things I need to get done on my monthly planner like, oil change, doctors appointment, etc. Then each morning I write a list/goals for things I would like to get done that day like, laundry & grocery shopping. If I don’t get to all of them, I don’t stress about it and they roll over to the next day.
Schedule time for yourself
As a mom it is so easy to lose yourself when you are constantly caring for others. Even if it is 20 minutes a day, or plan a few hours on the weekend to intentionally have alone time to focus on yourself and your mental health. Take a hot bath with some bath salts and a glass of wine. Go to a coffee shop with a girlfriend. Whatever makes you happy and relieves some stress, do it!
Set a routine
Children thrive with structure and setting a routine, as simple as it may be, will make for a happier child which in turn makes a happy mom. In the world we are currently living in, with it being a pandemic, we don’t leave our property much. Currently our schedule is pretty much the same everyday, but non the less, it is still a schedule. Most of our schedule revolves around snacks and meals. Does anyone else feel like their toddler eats non-stop?! We try to do a sensory play activity everyday, go outside, and cook together for activities.
Independent play
Speaking of independent play, I’m a huge advocate of it! It doesn’t come naturally to all children but it is something you can teach them over time. It helps improves their problem solving skills, developes their imagination, and gives them some time for themselves without so much stimulation. On the plus side it gives you a break to get things done around the house or a chance to relax on the couch. You deserve it mama!
Decrease social media
It is so easy to feel like you are failing as a mom these days when you look into other people’s lives on social media. People show you what they chose to. Everything can look like sunshine and rainbows on the outside which can leave you feeling less than when you finally put your phone down. Whether it is the house you wish you had, all the high end toys, or the vacations you can’t afford to go on. I mean, how can you not fall into a mindset like that when you are looking at these beautiful pictures and videos?
If you take one thing away from this post I hope it is you feeling like you are enough. Enough as a person, a wife, or a mom. The most inportant thing your children need is love. You can do that by putting your phone down and spending quality one on one time with them.
A post that has some great questions to ask yourself if you’re feeling like you use too much technology can be found here.
Make mom friends
All you need is a few good ones! It can be so rewarding when you have a friend you can connect with and share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Having a support system is so important and will absolutely help you feel not so alone no matter what age your kids are. We are all in this together and I know I need a good vent session every once in a while and I’m happy to reciptocate.
Asking for help
There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help. It doesn’t make you look weak or like any less of a mom. Your family and friends are more then happy to help you, and well if they aren’t, I suggest you eliminate them from your life. That is another tip I will be talking about soon on the blog. If you are stretched so thin and have no one to help you, I suggest hiring someone to help with the deep cleaning. That way you can focus your energy on the things that are more important.
Give yourself some grace
This is a great motto to live by no matter what age, gender, sex, if you are a mom or not. We as human beings in this day in age are so hard on ourselves. The number one thing you can do to be happier is give yourself some grace. You are doing the best you can, and the rest of it is out of your control, so just take a deep breath, mama.
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What are some of your simple habits that help make you a happy mom?
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